Lacey Von Amaze Face is one of my very favorite people in the universe. She came into my life when I needed her the most and I haven’t let her go since. When I met her we were both single moms with boys. Her son was a year older than mine. They soon became friends also. So here we were, sexy as hell, single moms working our rears off to take care of ourselves and kiddos.
When times were and are ugly she has a natural gift of making the bad not seem so bad. Lacey is one of those people in your life you don’t see coming, but when you find them you can’t imagine what your life was like before and you sure as hell can’t imagine your life without them now.
Although, she is kind of a pain sometimes, as you will see in this interview. You are going to love her. She is a wonderful, amazing, and courageous person. Today, ten years later, she is married to a great man that adores her and has an incredible life.
Lacey and her son.
I initially sent her a list of questions to answer from. She wrote back this…
Lacey: “Let me preface all of these by saying that you know that is cruel. I have no memory. Most of these questions I know you already know the answer to, so in reality this is a test. That is cruel.”
Me: “Crybaby.” (I didn’t actually say this to her face because she’d cry more and that’s just mean. I have boundaries.)
On with the interview…
Me: Where did we meet?
Lacey: Gosh. In a meeting? You know I have no memory! Regardless, it was one of the best days of my life.
Me: How old were you?
Lacey: Much older than you, but a young 35 or 36?
Me: (I asked her how old she was now. She wrote back her question with my question re-worded. Do you see how bossy she is?)
Me: How young are you now?
Lacey: 46
Me: Did you ever think you’d be where you are today?
Lacey: No. I never thought about the future, really.
Me: What did you want to be when you grew up?
Lacey: A lawyer. But really only because I said that once in my childhood and my father told me I could never do it. I spent twelve years as really kick-ass paralegal and noticed all of the attorneys around me hated their jobs and I knew it wasn’t for me.
Me: What do you do to make money now?
Lacey: I am a landman in the oil and gas industry.
Me: Who has been the most influential person in your life?
Lacey: A close tie between my grandmother and my aunt, who mothered me when my parents could not, and who have always loved me unconditionally.
Me: What has been your biggest challenge?
Lacey: My eating disorder.
Me: Do you miss anyone?
Lacey: I do. I miss friends I have lost to the disease of addiction and I miss my grandfather.
Me: What do you look forward to?
Lacey: Each day, really. Most of the time anyway. I’m lucky to be alive and happy.
Me: What do you do with extra time?
Lacey: I love to read and walk/run and do yoga. These things feed my soul.
Lacey with her yoga instructor.
Me: Do you have any tattoos?
Lacey: Yes, I have a small Chinese symbol on the small of my back, in red ink. Allegedly, it stands for “fate.” I was about 11 vodkas in when I got it and it could mean “French fry” for all I know. It is absolutely meaningless, except as further evidence that I do not make good decisions drunk!
Me: Do you have any goals for this year?
Lacey: Yes, I am currently working to be better about my job and pass my RPL exam for certification in my industry. But most important, I am working with a dietician again weekly to get balance with food and body image – these two things impact my life daily and all of my relationships.
Me: Where is your favorite spot to be?
Lacey: With Michael, in bed, right when we lay down and we are talking about our days.
Lacey with her husband, Michael
Me: Where do you want to travel?
Lacey: Italy, Spain and Marrakesh!
Me: What are you most afraid of?
Lacey: Fear
Me: What do you tell yourself when things get hard?
Lacey: That I am loved by a God I do not understand (and I don’t have to anymore, what a blessing!) and that I have incredible tenacity and have survived many hardships. And then I go and try to be of service to someone else.
Me: What are you wearing right now?
Lacey: Yoga clothes!
Me: What are some of your favorite movies?
Lacey: Garp, Love Story, Godfather, Schindler’s List, Fight Club, American History X, Memento, The Departed, The Shining, and American Beauty.
Me: What are your favorite books?
Lacey: To many to mention. Last one – Brain on Fire.
Me: TV Shows?
Lacey: Masters of Sex, Office, Seinfield, Friends, The Leftovers, John Oliver.
Me: What do you want the world to know?
Lacey: I am just fine not wanting the world to know anything, really. I am most interested in my personal relationships. And I want those people to know they are loved unconditionally and I am here to help them through this crazy world with some sanity left. It ain’t easy!
Lacey and her niece.
Me and Lace Face.
Thank you Lacey for letting me interview you. You truly are a kick-ass human being! I’m so grateful for your friendship!
The Grateful Worm 